"Quiz Time: Which WLW and Polyamorous Partner Knows Best?" Watch as we put our relationship to the test! From dancing skills to snoring habits, find out who REALLY knows who best đ Turn out I'm the pickier eater and Bo's the better cook (no surprises there!) but we might have started a war over who's the better dancer đđŸđ„ Drop a comment with which question you'd ask YOUR partner! New episodes coming soon in both English and French đ«đ·đŹđ§ #BlackLove #WLWCouple #QueerRelationships #BrusselsBelgium #CoupleQuiz #BlackQueerJoy #DiasporicLove Watch the full video at link in bio! đđŸ
Hello beautiful people! RaeRae here, with Bo nodding along beside me as I type this up. If youâve been following our journey as a Black queer WLW couple navigating life, love, and everything in between here in Brussels, you know weâre all about keeping it real. Today, weâre excited to share with you the first episode of our brand new series: âQuiz Time: Which WLW and Polyamorous Partner Knows Best?â
This series is our way of letting you all get to know us better â the silly quirks, the loving moments, and yes, even the occasional disagreements that make our relationship what it is. Each episode will have its own theme, and weâll be switching between English and French (sorry, no Portuguese or Lingala for now, though we might surprise you one day!).
Full transparency: I (RaeRae) prepared the questions for this episode, but Bo only discovered them during filming. So while I had a slight head start, it didnât necessarily mean I was better prepared for her answers! The premise is simple: we wanted to find out who knows who better. And let me tell you, the results were⊠illuminating.
Our first question was about whoâs most likely to lose their phone, and both of us immediately pointed at me (RaeRae). While I initially thought about âlosingâ as in âmisplacing around the house,â Bo clarified she meant âlosing forever.â According to her, Iâm âvery nonchalantâ with my phone â apparently, Iâve been known to turn off Wi-Fi and just ignore messages for⊠well, longer than sheâd prefer!
Whatâs funny is I havenât actually cut the Wi-Fi on my phone in years, but that perception has stuck. I will admit that I donât check my phone as religiously as many people do. In our hyper-connected world, especially as content creators, thereâs something refreshing about not being constantly tethered to technology.
Though to be fair, neither of us has actually lost a phone since that unfortunate party in 2020 when everyone got their phones stolen (which, technically, doesnât count as âlosingâ).
When it comes to who takes longer to get ready, I (RaeRae) had to own this one completely. But hear me out â thereâs method to my madness! As a femme-presenting Black woman navigating spaces that werenât always designed with us in mind, my preparation involves a complex risk assessment:
For Black women globally, but especially as part of the diaspora in European spaces like Brussels, this calculation is about more than vanity â itâs about safety, representation, and resistance. When we step out, weâre making statements with our very existence.
Bo admits that sometimes my thorough preparation process makes us late, but sheâs ânever disappointed with the result.â (Cue me blushing as I type this.) As she puts it: âThe result is always, always perfect.â What can I say? Excellence takes time, honey!
The âpickier eaterâ question revealed some of our more vulnerable moments. I (RaeRae) acknowledged that due to allergies and past negative experiences, food has âalways been an issue.â When we first met, my dietary restrictions were fairly straightforward: no meat and no red fruit. But over time, Iâve developed more intolerances.
Bo shared how she initially felt upset when I wouldnât retry dishes that had made me sick, but sheâs come to understand and accept it. This journey â learning to accommodate each otherâs needs without judgment â reflects something deeper about relationships in our community. In Black queer spaces across the diaspora, weâre constantly unlearning the pressure to conform and instead creating room for our authentic needs and experiences.
Food is also deeply cultural, and navigating dietary restrictions while honoring our diverse Black cultural food traditions creates another layer of complexity that weâre still figuring out together.
The entertainment section of our quiz revealed some hilarious differences in how we consume media. I (RaeRae) admitted to being the one who will binge-watch an entire series in a day â and yes, sometimes âhate-watchâ things just to have a complete opinion!
Bo described watching TV with me as âan experience,â noting that I often look âvery disappointed in the show but keep watching it.â What can I say? I need to see things through to form a well-rounded opinion, even if Iâm not enjoying it! Sometimes shows improve with different directors or storylines, and sometimes they donât â but at least I can say I gave it a fair chance.
Meanwhile, Bo described herself as having âbroken up with TV showsâ about six years ago because they were too time-consuming alongside work, social life, and other responsibilities. When she does watch something, she prefers to rewatch familiar content rather than risk getting obsessed with new shows.
This contrast in our media consumption habits reflects something beautiful about Black queer relationships â how we create space for different approaches to joy and leisure, recognizing that our communities have historically been denied these simple pleasures.
The âbetter dancerâ question sparked one of our most animated discussions. When Bo suggested she might be better at dancing to techno, I (RaeRae) had to shut that down immediately: âYou done lost your damn mind!â
What emerged was a beautiful recognition of how different Black diaspora dance traditions live in our bodies. Bo acknowledged that I excel at dancehall, with the ability to âmake it do what you want it to do⊠like there are two little brains down there.â Meanwhile, she called herself a âwaistline warriorâ.
This moment in our quiz highlights something profound about Black queer WLW relationships across the diaspora â how our bodies carry cultural knowledge, rhythms, and movements that connect us to our various heritages. Whether itâs wining from Caribbean traditions, South African dance moves, or West African hip motions, our bodies speak languages that transcend borders.
I also revealed how I taught Bo how to twerk a few years back, though she hasnât yet performed this skill at parties â partly because her âpackageâ might not be as visible in the baggy jeans she typically wears out. As Bo sweetly put it, âItâs a beautiful package⊠in quality, itâs good. Itâs also slightly present in quantity as well!â (Iâm blushing again as I type this!)
This playful celebration of our bodies represents something revolutionary for Black queer women across the diaspora â reclaiming joy and pleasure in bodies that have historically been hypersexualized, scrutinized, or erased entirely.
The snoring question had us both pointing fingers! Bo claims she can make âan honest, scientific, academic comparisonâ of our snoring volumes since she âhears everything.â Meanwhile, I argued that while mine might be loud, Bo stated that it is âso aggressiveâ it sometimes wakes her up! Jokingly of course đ
Whatâs sweet about this silly disagreement is how itâs evolved â Bo mentioned that my snoring now âsoothesâ her, and I hope mine does the same for her. Itâs these intimate moments of imperfection that create the true foundation of long-term love.
Neither of us is likely to bring home stray pets, though not for lack of compassion. I (RaeRae) tried once to rescue a kitten dumped on the roadside by putting it in my bag, but it escaped before I got home. Bo, meanwhile, is âallergic to all of themâ â cats, dogs, birds, and even roaches (though as she points out, she wasnât planning to adopt pet roaches anyway!).
Bo shared a touching story about a period when she wasnât doing well mentally and found purpose in feeding three stray cats in our neighborhood. For months, they were her motivation to leave the house each day. When she couldnât find them anymore, it was heartbreaking, though she hopes someone else in the neighborhood took them in.
Her comment â âI like having pets, just not in my homeâ â perfectly captures how weâve learned to create boundaries while still extending care.
Bo readily admitted to being more likely to forget important dates, which I (RaeRae) attribute to her general challenges with âdates as a conceptâ and time perception. Though it took a couple of years, my birthday is now firmly engraved in her brain â which is what matters most!
As for cooking, we have complementary approaches. Bo is excellent because sheâs mastered about ten specific dishes that she repeats with consistent perfection. Iâm more experimental â sometimes producing good results, sometimes excellent ones, depending on how Iâm feeling and what inspiration strikes. As Bo puts it, with my cooking âyou know itâs gonna be good, but I donât know where itâs gonna be on the spectrum of good.â
This silly quiz revealed something profound about our relationship and Black queer WLW relationships across the diaspora. We navigate a world that rarely centers our experiences, creating our own templates for love, communication, and understanding.
When we share these intimate glimpses into our relationship â from snoring to cooking to dancing debates â weâre making visible what is too often rendered invisible. Each laugh, each playful disagreement, each moment of genuine understanding represents a form of resistance and celebration.
For Black queer women across the diaspora, seeing ourselves reflected in authentic relationships matters. Whether youâre in Brussels like us, London, New York, Johannesburg, Kingston, or anywhere else in the world, these shared experiences create connection across borders and boundaries. Our love is borderless, even when our bodies cannot be.
We hope this first episode of our quiz series made you laugh, maybe nod in recognition, and perhaps see your own relationships in a new light. Stay tuned for more episodes coming soon â the next one might be mostly in French, so get those translation apps ready!
Want to see all these moments for yourself? Check out the full video on our channel!
With love, laughter, and occasional snoring, RaeRae (with Boâs approval)
P.S. Drop a comment letting us know which question resonated most with you and your partner(s)! Weâd love to hear your stories too.
P.P.S. If youâre looking for some good tunes then check out Boâs set at Lejeune Club here!
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